Topics to bring up in a new relationship

Falling in love is all-consuming. You see the world with rose-tinted glasses and all you want to do is be with your guy. But before things get too serious, there are a few topics you ought to bring up. It might just prevent heartbreak in the future. Here’s what you need to discuss.    

Downtime

It may seem trivial to bring it up, but your idea of downtime could impact your relationship in the future. If your idea of winding down is sitting at home with a book and a glass of wine while he can only unwind in the great outdoors, you may need to talk it out and work on your compatibility factor.

Sexual history

Yes, he seems like a nice guy and you like him a lot, but before you go all the way, a frank conversation about both your sexual histories is a must. It could prevent resentment and trips to the doctor in the future.

Marriage

You don’t want to scare the guy off, for sure. But you also don’t want to be in a relationship that might end in heartbreak. So, if either of you want marriage in the future, or not, the time to talk about it is now.

Splitting money

Money issues cause most problems in a relationship. So, talk about how you want to handle expenses. It could prevent a nasty fight in the future.

Past relationships

You may not want to bring up his past, but knowing how things ended with his ex, or exes, could give you a clear insight into your partner’s personality. Additionally, how he talks about them now will let you know how he treats women in general.

Definition of commitment

This one is a must-discuss, especially in the modern world of dating. For example, you may feel that having a Tinder account when you are in a relationship is no big deal, but your SO may believe otherwise. So, being on the same page is paramount.