Build anticipation
Speak to your partner and agree on a period of time where you won’t have orgasms or penetrative sex, such as a week. During this time, you should just focus on hugging and kissing, finally allowing yourself to reach an orgasm after the period of time is up.
Massage
Massage is a great pre-cursor to sensual sex and is a brilliant foreplay activity. Getting to know your partners body is a great way to help your sex life. It is also a great stress reliever and reintroduces the intimacy between you.
The senses
If you want to enhance your sex life, you should incorporate as many of the senses as possible. Massage, scented oils (as long as they don’t get near the condom if it’s latex, as this can damage it), music, food and candles are all great places to start.
Whisper
Speaking to your partner about what you want from sex, whether it’s telling your partner your intentions or a sexy phone call, can be incredibly arousing and do wonders for your sex life. Texts and emails can also work in the same way, too!
Masturbation
Knowing your body is key to enjoying sex as much as possible, and masturbation is a great way to learn about what you enjoy and what you don’t.
Sex toys
As long as both you and your partner are happy to use them, sex toys can be a fun and exciting addition to your sex life. If you’ve never used them before, experimenting can be a fun way of increasing the intimacy between you and your partner.
Read a book
Books are a great source of inspiration for positions or ways to achieve a more fulfilling sex life, whatever your age, gender or sexual orientation. If you’re looking for new ways to spice up your relationship, a book could provide you with some ideas you’ve never thought of.
Share fantasies and desires
Each and every one of us has had a sexual fantasy at one point or another, and sharing it with your partner can be an erotic and intimate way to explore new ideas in the bedroom. Knowing about your partner’s most secret desires, and vice versa, can be a great way to make them a reality.
Keep it clean
General hygiene is key in order to be respectful to your partner – you don’t need to be scrubbed within an inch of your life, but washing regularly to avoid any nasty smells or tastes is important.
Relax
Often, the best sex happens when you’re not overthinking things and simply relaxing – so just enjoy it!