Loss of desire
During pregnancy or when you are particularly stressed, you may find that you want sex less, if at all. This is usually just a phase but, for some women, it is a constant problem. This problem can be caused by psychological issues or emotional problems, as well as physical aspects of your lifestyle, such as diabetes or depression. You sex drive may drop if your body’s natural testosterone levels dip. You may find that psychosexual therapy can help to solve this problem and help you to enjoy sex once again.
Orgasm problems
This is generally divided into two categories, primary and secondary. A primary issue is when a woman has never been able to achieve an orgasm, whilst secondary is when she can no longer achieve one. For many women, not reaching an orgasm doesn’t hinder them enjoying sex, but it can causes a problem for some people’s sexual relationship. There are various factors which can contribute to this issue, such as a lack of knowledge about sex, not being able to relax or mood disorders. Speaking to your GP is advised if you are concerned about this problem.
Pain
Pain during sex is also known as dyspareunia and is a common problem following menopause, as the oestrogen levels fall, causing the vagina to become dry. There are creams available to help combat this problem, so you should speak to your GP if this is the case for you. There are other problems which may be the cause, such as vaginismus – this is where the muscles in the vagina go into spasm, making intercourse painful. This is often treatable, so speak to your GP to arrange this. If you are concerned about any aspect of your sex life, from orgasms to emotional issues, you should speak to a GP or nurse, who can advise how best to treat the problem. If a therapist or sexual health professional is required, a doctor can direct you to the best person for your problem.