Whether you’ve been with your partner for a long time, or you’re just getting things started in the bedroom department, trying out different positions can seem a daunting prospect. However, even if you’ve tried, say, five different positions over the course of your relationship, that’s like having eaten only five different dishes all your life! Is it any wonder that many people in relationships claim sex gets boring after a while?
Trying out something new in the bedroom can help keep things interesting and spice up your sex life, but even if you’re in the bedroom it doesn’t have to mean you’re lying in bed. A more athletic and, shall we say, advanced position to try is standing sex, which admittedly requires a certain degree of athleticism and strength especially from the male partner. If you’re a woman, this position usually requires you to have your back against the wall and use it as a support while your partner supports your body weight by holding you up.
So this definitely isn’t a position for beginners, or those who aren’t the most athletically able, but you can help your partner out by putting one leg on the ground for added support. However, if your partner is strong enough to support your bodyweight, try wrapping both legs around his partner’s hips and let him do the work! So that’s how it’s done, so to speak, but what are the pros and cons of this position.
The major con of this position is that it requires a certain degree of confidence and it won’t happen unless you’re both passionate about it and each other. As previously mentioned, you partner may have trouble supporting your weight unless he’s pretty strong, and the pressure might be a bit much for your partner. He has to support your weight, thrust and give and have an orgasm at the same time, which can be an intimidating combination of tasks. You also have the concern of whether your partner will drop you at some point, which can ruin the mood somewhat.
On the plus side, standing sex is a great position if you want a quickie or something lusty and passionate. As you and your partner are face-to-face, there’s more opportunity for kissing as well as a greater chance of clitoral stimulation as there are so many different angles available. Some of these angles will also allow your partner to penetrate more deeply than may be possible during missionary or the other lying down positions. All in all, it sounds like it’s worth the effort!