Everyone longs to retain the early stages of a relationship, where everything is exciting and passionate. It’s natural for some of that excitement to dissipate when you’ve been together for a long time, but you don’t have to wave goodbye to all of the passion – there are ways to ensure that the spark you once enjoyed so much stays put well into your relationship. Staying sexy is the first trick to keeping the spark alive in your relationship, as this is key to retaining the romance. It’s easy to fall into the trap of getting too comfortable with your partner and giving up on things you did when you were first together, but don’t forget these – these are things which will ensure you don’t lose the passion. Try leaving your partner a love note for them to find during the day or when they get home – it’s a quick and easy way to remind your lover that you are thinking of them. You could either write them a note for them to find in their coat pocket, or leave them a steamy message on the bathroom mirror. You don’t have to become a poet overnight for this trick to work – a simple “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or “Thinking of you” can prove to be very effective. Along these lines, why not surprise your partner with a romantic dinner. Opt out of the ritual Friday night takeaway and make something a little more special – light some candles, put some wine on to chill and enjoy some time together.
Fancy making an effort with your underwear? You could offer your lover a sexy lingerie fashion show, either in one night or a sneaky preview of each outfit throughout the week. There’s nothing better than seeing your partner in a skimpy, sexy outfit and this can be a fun way to spark some passion into your love life. Don’t wait for a special occasion to do something special for your loved one, though – surprising them is the best way to make them feel special and thought of. Why not make them their special meal one evening when they’re least expecting it or surprise them with a small but thoughtful gift. If you’d rather surprise them with something a little sexier, there are plenty of toys and sexual enhancers on the market which can really ignite the passion into your sex life.
Your attitude towards sex and your relationship may be what needs to shift though. You need to start thinking about your relationship as a third party – you, your partner and your relationship all need to participate in order for you to be healthy. This means taking time to slow down and spend time together, without your kids and without talk of bills or work. Spend time together without being sexual and just be. These moments ensure that your relationship stays a happy one, and that you don’t get bogged down with the mundane aspects of a life together. This may be in the form of a date night once a week to keep the romance alive, making time to say goodbye or greet each other when you get home from work. These things may seem small and insignificant, but they make all the difference when you’ve been with someone a long time. Making the effort will mean the difference between losing the passion early and keeping that spark alive for years to come.