The emotional impact of having a difficult sex life is considerable. When you are not connecting with your partner, it can feel that an important part of your wellness and sexual wellbeing are missing, and often people struggle to understand why their sex life has deteriorated or what they can do about it.
There are many possible causes for a drop off in sex life – ranging from depression to stress and including things like being too busy to find time for sex, having a turbulent time in your relationship, or simply not feeling very ‘in synch’, sexually.
It’s very normal to experience dry spells in your sex life, and s not something that you should worry about. It will probably pick up again, but it is important that you keep an eye on it and make sure that it isn’t a longer-term problem.
If you want to attempt to kick-start your sex life, there are some things that you can try to get both your libidos firing again.
Working out together can be a great way to get back into your sex life. Not only does exercise increase blood flow to your sex organs, but it also releases endorphins, which make you feel happy, relaxed and confident. Dopamine is also released which helps to build up your self-esteem, which will lead you to feel confident and sexy. Not only that, but jumping in a steamy shower together afterwards can work wonders.
Adding a little excitement to your sex life can also be a great idea. You could send naughty texts to one another or buy some sexy lingerie – whatever it takes to make you feel sexy again. You could even take a mini break away together to get rid of your usual routine and spend some time together.
If all else fails, make sure that it’s not your birth control that is killing the mood – as some forms of contraception can lead your libido to fall flat and other types can be a bit of a passion killer. Talk to your GP about making a change.