Premature ejaculation is one of the biggest sexual problems affecting men today. It affects their wellness and wellbeing both through a lack of physical, sexual pleasure and also by denting their self-confidence and self-esteem. The good news is, there are ways that you can last longer! There is no need to battle with this in silence anymore.
One thing you can do is to attempt to train yourself to last longer through masturbation. When you masturbate, the goal shouldn’t be to get to the point of climax as quickly as possible – as is often the case – but instead to take as much time as you can to get there! Work up to taking 15 minutes to reach orgasm. You can do this by bringing yourself close to orgasm and then stopping again to cool things down. This should help you teach your body to last longer during penetrative sex.
Another way to go is called the ‘squeeze technique’. When you feel that you are getting too close, too soon, stop and squeeze right below the head of the penis, applying firm pressure with your forefinger and thumb and applying specific pressure to the urethra, which runs along the underside of the penis. This pushes blood back out of the penis and can help to decrease sexual tension, making the ejaculatory response get temporarily repressed.
If you’re trying to last longer in bed, it’s also a great idea to work out exactly how you feel when you are going to orgasm. Recognising the pattern in yourself will better allow you to control it.
There are also exercises (or sexercises we might say!) that you can do to help you tighten up the muscles of the pelvic floor. When you do your kegel exercises (by contracting and releasing the muscles that stop and start the urine flow, you will have better ejaculatory control.