The female mantra of “we need more foreplay” has been a sexual health issue for years, so why, then, do men still think they can get away with a quick grope and a slip of the tongue before sex? True, there are some circumstances in which you can get away with even less than that – after all, we all like a quickie now and then. However, most of the time, women need more from their partners than a wham, bam, thank you mam. In order to ensure your relationship wellness is in good shape, you need to realise that sex is different for men and women. Your partner doesn’t need an hour, or even half an hour, of foreplay, but for her sexual being – and, consequently, yours – to be as good as it can, foreplay is essential.
The key thing to remember here is that making it worth her while is, ultimately, improving sex for you too. You may feel like you end up putting all the work in to getting her “ready” — boooring — but if you want to have more and better sex, you need to enjoy this process. The more you turn her on in preparation for sex, the more likely she will be to have an orgasm – and be extremely grateful and willing to repay the favour. Giving her a sexual experience she’ll never forget will leave her desperate for more, meaning you get more sex out of it – winner. To give her the moves that will drive her wild, there are a few things you need to learn about foreplay:
1. There’s no ultimate foreplay: Some men seem to think there’s such a thing as the “ultimate foreplay” but actually variation is better. While something may work wonders for her arousal, the “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it mentality” doesn’t apply. Sure, bring back your classic moves now and then, but don’t just stick to the one tactic you know, otherwise things will get stale. Get to know some knew things your partner likes – and ask her if there’s anything she’d like you to try. She’ll be touched that you want to make her happy, and having her tell you what to do can be a real turn on for both of you.
2. Kissing and foreplay: When it comes to turn-ons, I don’t think there’s a bigger one for women than kissing – especially if you do it nice and slow. Kiss every inch of your partner’s body and – by the time you’re done – she’ll be pretty excited for the main event. In fact, you may find she won’t be able to wait until the kissing stops! By taking the time and kissing every part of her, you’re telling your partner that you love every part of her, and don’t just like her for her lady parts. If you only focus on her breasts and vagina, your partner may feel desensitised in these areas after a while. You don’t have to kiss her all over every time you have sex – again, this can get stale if you do it every time – but by ravishing her every now and then, you can enjoy the process of figuring out her secret erogenous zones, and using that knowledge to your advantage in the future.
3. Avoid the moves that she hates: Every woman is different, but generally, women don’t like repetitious movements, being too aggressive or rough, anything lacking imagination; getting hurt or having her clitoris missed out. All men make these mistakes in the bedroom because men tend to do what they would like to have done to them. Sometimes, she may be up for something a little more rough, but if you want to have aggressive sex and nothing else, perhaps you should have sex with another man.