There’s no denying it; we like sex. It’s good for your sexual health – not to mention your overall wellbeing – to have sex or masturbate on a regular basis, and most of us are all-too willing to oblige our wellness in this way. By having sex often, you can boost your immune system, enhance your fertility, stave off depression and even lengthen your life span. But how satisfied are you with the sex you’re having, and how can you increase that sense of satisfaction? Let’s look at how you can have more sex – and more satisfying sex.
1. Sex with yourself: Some people make the mistake of thinking that masturbation means you desire your partner less, but this simply isn’t true. In fact, flying solo on occasion can help you understand how your body responds to different types of touch, which is information that you can pass on to your partner, and make sex with him or her all the better for it. There’s no right or wrong way to masturbate, nor is there any rule as to how often you should or shouldn’t do it. Plus, there’s something quite sexy about having sex alone, together. Mutual masturbation can be very intimate, and give your partner new ideas about how to touch you in a way you’d like.
2. Feeling sexier: Your thoughts are a right nuisance in the bedroom, often getting in the way of having a good time. If you don’t like your body, you can get distracted by hiding your wobbly bits or worrying about turning off your partner, which will only make sex worse for both of you. Regular exercise can help you to shed your negative body and boost your sex life, but not just in the way you think. While exercising can help to tone your body, it also gives you better stamina and circulation, both of which translate to better sex. Good orgasms rely on blood flow to the genitals, and more stamina means you can go all night. Plus, exercise releases feel-good hormones, meaning you’ll feel better about yourself when the clothes come off. If the exercise you choose is yoga, you get extra points for improved flexibility!
3. Play: What comes to mind when you think about role-playing and sex games? Maybe you’d like to don a costume and try some sort of sexy secretary scenario, or maybe you want to try out a blindfold or handcuffs. Some people want something as simple as pretending to be strangers and flirting with your partner during a night out. Whatever you’re into, be as creative as you like and make sure that both of you are comfortable. The aim of role-playing is to spice up your experience and loosen your inhibitions. This is especially helpful if you have been in a monogamous relationship for a long time, as it gives you the chance to see a side of your partner you’ve never seen before.
4. Work on those muscles: If you want to strengthen your heart, do cardio; if you want to build your bones, do resistance training. If you want better sex, do Kegel exercises. Not only do Kegel exercises relieve urinary incontinence, but they also enhance your orgasms (and for men they may also enhance an erection). While you shouldn’t practice Kegel exercises while relieving your bladder, you’ll know you’re working the correct muscles if you can stop (or slow down) and start your urine stream. Contract these muscles and hold this for five to ten seconds, and then release them for the same amount of time. Repeat this five times. Take five minutes out of your day, two to three times a day, and practise your Kegel exercises for better, more satisfying sex.