When you turn down sex, you often say to your partner that you’re just not “in the mood” but is there only one mood in which you have to be for sex? No matter the state of your emotional wellness, we say there’s a sex move for every mood, meaning your sexual health doesn’t have to suffer just because you’re a bit stressed or sleepy.
1. Cuddly: Much in the same way that wearing your jammies and watching TV doesn’t make you feel inclined to go to the gym, when you feel all cosy or snugly, you’re less inclined to unleash you’re inner sex goddess. If you’re in a cuddly mood, lie with your head on your partner’s chest and trace cute little messages across his torso (“So happy”/”You’re hot”). Then he can reciprocate by writing his own love note across your back.
2. Sexy/Beautiful: Your hair looks better than it ever has and your skinny jeans are hugging you in all the right places; it’s time to show off how amazing you look. Get your partner to lie on his back on the bed, and straddle him while leaning back so your elbows are resting behind you. That way, your partner can thrust up while getting an eyeful of your fit physique.
3. Shy: Sometimes, your hair doesn’t look all that great and your jeans suggest more “muffin top” than “sweet treat”. If you’re not feeling so hot, half-dressed sex is the answer. Though doing it with your clothes on doesn’t sound terribly passionate, if you keep your mini dress on and push your underwear aside – and don’t let him get totally naked either— it’ll feel urgent and charged.
4. Naughty: If you’re feeling a little freaky, why not go commando on your next date night? Then, while he’s driving or you’re sitting in the cinema, slyly slip his hand underneath your skirt, and give him a saucy little smile. You don’t have to get to third base right there and then, but letting him know what’s going on downstairs means he’ll be good to go as soon as you get home.
5. Crazy: While getting caught having sex isn’t that much fun in reality, the idea of getting caught can be a major turn-on. Tap into your wild, exhibitionist side by having doggie-style sex—in front of a window! You can do it at night with the lights off to keep nosy neighbours at bay, but just the odd chance that someone else might see you can help to literally steam things up.
6. Stressed: If you’ve got deadlines coming up or the kids are making you tear your hair out, sex may be the last thing on your mind. However, orgasms can be real tension busters, so you need some good, no-fuss loving. As soon as you’re alone with your partner, pull him close and whisper, “All I want right now is for you to make me come.” (Hello!) Men like to fix a problem, meaning he gets to feel like a total stud while you get yours at the same time.
7. Relaxed: When you’ve got all the time in the world, having a hot bubble bath together can be very intimate. Sit between your partner’s legs with your back against his chest. He can get busy with his hands while you gently grind up against him.
8. Groggy: The morning after a late night, slow languid sex is somehow strangely appealing. For these moments, spooning is the way to go as you can still laze in bed while his hands roam around your body.