Small penis syndrome, a psychological condition in which a man thinks his manhood is too small, affects many men. But is it something to actually worry about? British researchers found that 63 per cent of men complained about having a too-small penis, but that of all the men interviewed, none of them actually had a penis that was smaller than normal. A ‘normal’ penis measures in the region of 5.5 and 6.2 inches long, and 4.7 and 5.1 inches in girth. But even if your penis doesn’t fall into this category, the real question on a number of men’s minds is what a difference it makes to their sexual capabilities and their relationship.
Well, it seems to be good news on that front as well – 85 per cent of women reported that they were happy with their partner’s size. It’s not to say that women across the board don’t care about what men have ‘down there’, but it doesn’t seem to be the overriding feature of a great sex partner either. Sexual satisfaction appears to take a number of other factors into account before penis size is even mentioned. It’s a myth, possibly promoted through the porn industry, that women crave a large penis – large penises don’t instantly equate to an orgasm, and penis size can even skew a woman’s ability to achieve orgasm. In fact, for many women, having a large penis stops a lot of men from even trying in bed, assuming that getting an erection is the most they need to do to be a great lover. It doesn’t work this way though, and effort is always much more appreciated than assuming all you have to do is turn up to be great in the bedroom.
Usually when women complain about a man’s penis size, it’s that they’re also not having orgasms – because if they’re getting orgasms out of the sexual experience, they generally aren’t bothered about what size your penis is. But if you’re still worried about it, why not try mixing things up in the bedroom and aiming for positions which increase penetration and clitoral stimulation? try placing her legs on your shoulders when you’re in the missionary position, or enter her from behind when she’s on all fours. While length may not be an issue, it seems that girth is something women look for – the thicker the penis, the better, according to a number of women. This is because the greatest number of nerve endings are in the lowest part of the vagina, so when a thick penis pushes past the labia and into the lower vaginal walls, the sensation is more pleasurable. But that doesn’t mean that men with thinner penises are never going to satisfy a woman – penetrating whilst moving your hips in a circular position can increase this pleasurable sensation. Being thrusted by someone with a massive penis is actually painful for a lot of women, so it’s not on the wish list for most females. Men compare themselves to what they see in porn, but most women aren’t looking for that kind of physique. And another thing, men look at themselves from above, so their penis always looks smaller to them than it does to their partners.
Personality, as it always has been, is far more important to women than physical appearances – and that’s something to remember, regardless of what size you are. If you’re worried about your penis size, it may be worth looking into counselling to improve your confidence in the bedroom and to help you accept your body the way it is.