Oral sex is something of a regular addition to the majority of couples’ sex routines these days, but despite blowjobs being a regular feature in the sexual activities of modern-day couples, many women don’t actually know if what they’re doing ‘down there’ is right. And men often aren’t sure whether women like giving head or if it’s something they do to please their partner. So how do you give mind-blowing oral sex?
Previous surveys indicate that around 55 per cent of women find oral sex to be perfectly normal and were happy to include it into their sexual routine, and many women also do it as part of reciprocity too! Blowjobs have been around for centuries and certainly aren’t a new sex technique, despite them becoming increasingly popular since the 90s. Some women worry about getting a sore jaw from keeping their mouth locked in the same position for too long, but there isn’t a set position to put yourself in to limit this happening – you simply have to alternate between sucking and licking to give your jaw a break from staying in the same position too long, if you find that this becomes a problem. It’s natural for your hands, as a man, to land on a woman’s head while she’s giving you a blowjob, but most women don’t enjoy you pushing on their head – a little gentle hair stroking is fine, but don’t get too forceful. Another big no-no is pushing a woman’s head down if you’re kissing her or are in the mood – it’s off-putting and demeaning, and certainly doesn’t put your partner in the mood for oral sex! As with anything in the bedroom, asking or suggesting is the best way to go – you don’t want your partner to feel forced into something they don’t want to do.
Blowjobs are something that many people feel worried or anxious about, but there isn’t any need to be nervous about going down on your partner. As with hand jobs, it’s a personal thing as to how hard or fast you go while you’re down there. So communication is key; take some time out to talk to your partner and see what he likes. There may be a particular technique he enjoys that you can learn how to do. And don’t be afraid of mixing things up and keeping your blowjobs interesting. You can use flavoured lubes, use your hands as a chaser to your mouth and tongue, or trying experimenting with temperatures by sucking on an ice cube before going down on him, then drinking a hot drink and doing the same to keep him guessing what’s coming. Experimenting is all part of the fun though, so keep it fun and light-hearted to see what you both enjoy, both as the giver and the receiver. As with anything in sex though, you should practice your technique. Don’t suck too hard and be sure to mix things up with your tongue, such as licking and swirling your tongue around the tip of the penis.
If you’re nervous about blowjobs, you can always start off slow and build up to more experimentation when you feel a bit more confident. The most important things to remember are not to go too hard and to avoid using your teeth, as this isn’t usually well received! Blowjobs aren’t as scary as they first seem and with a little practice, you can become an oral sex pro in no time.