You can never have too much of a good thing, especially if that thing involves your sexual health. For some women, achieving one orgasm during sex can be tricky, but we’re here to tell you that you can experience more than one climax in a single sack session! According to Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, co-author of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman, ‘The average woman is built to come again and again.’ So that means mastering the first peak isn’t the end of the climb; you can achieve higher heights. Dr. Abrams explains, ‘Women don’t require a refractory period like men do, so we’re able to stay aroused for longer and have an orgasm a second and third time with little effort.’ So how can you boost your sexual wellbeing and have more orgasms?
1. Don’t Be Single-Minded: Dr. Abrams advises, ‘After you’ve gotten there for the first time, rather than switching off mentally and sexually — which is what you do when you assume you’ve reached the finale — you need to remain expectant and open to further arousal. ‘It’s all about knowing that your body is fully capable, even built, to experience deeper, longer, and more frequent orgasms…One of the biggest misconceptions women have about multiple orgasms is that they happen by chance or that they’re some sort of fluke, but like anything else, they require a little effort and planning that you don’t get from on-the-fly quickies…Tell him that tonight you want to feel the slow burn. And to get that, you really want to draw out foreplay, and you have a few ideas for the main event too.’
2. Get Sexercising: Beverly Whipple, PhD, co-author of The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality, asserts that, to have multiple orgasms, you need strong PC or Kegel muscles. Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription, adds, ‘Since your orgasm is essentially an intense contraction of your PC and pelvic floor muscles, strengthening them increases blood flow to the area and enables you to experience a deeper pleasure sensation and a repeated series of pulses.’ Kegel exercises can help you to get more PC, so stop putting them off and just do them! Then, the moment you feel that first contraction of orgasm, ‘don’t let it slip away,’ says Dr. Abrams. ‘Keep pumping your muscles in small bursts to draw out the wave and create momentum for the next series of orgasmic contractions.’
3. Max Out Foreplay: ‘For most women, clitoral stimulation from oral sex is the easiest way for them to climax,’ notes Dr. Abrams. ‘And having your guy help you get there before intercourse means that your body will be geared up to come again and respond to the added vaginal stimulation during sex, rather than still struggling to orgasm for the first time.’ Make sure he takes it slow. Dr. Abrams points out, ‘If you’re aroused slowly, then you’ll stay aroused for longer, and unlike manual stimulation, his tongue is flexible, soft and strong — the perfect tool for making that happen.’ Let your partner tease you with his tongue, pull away for a few seconds, and then dive back in. Dr. Abrams explains, ‘Oral teasing techniques prime the body to expect that after each peak of sensation, another one is coming. And it remembers that lesson when you orgasm — after one, it’ll stay in that prepped state for more stimulation, putting you on the track to come again.’
4. Take a Mini Time-Out: Whipple details, ‘After an orgasm, a lot of nerve pathways have been stimulated, and there’s been a tremendous surge in blood flow. So it’s completely natural for some women to want to take a break from stimulation in those moments immediately following.’ Dr. Abrams advises, ‘Give the vaginal area a break for a minute, and have your partner suck your fingers, kiss you or caress your breasts. The stroking in other regions will keep your nerves and sensual energy on high alert while your nether regions cool off just enough to take his caresses all over again.’