There’s a common misconception that foreplay is favoured by women, while men just put up with it in order to get to the good stuff. However, according to a study from the University of New Brunswick, Canada, it was found that while women assumed their partner wanted 13 minutes tops, men claimed that 18 minutes was ideal. Sexual health and wellness expert Judy Dutton, author of REDBOOK’s 500 Sex Tips, argues, ‘It pays to take your sweet time and indulge in the sensual smorgasboard foreplay can be.’ So, to help you tune into his sexual wellbeing, we’ve rounded up some real men who were happy to share their favourite foreplay experiences.
1. De-Robe In Front of Him: John, 40, notes, ‘When Cassie’s in the mood for lovemaking or for reminding me how sexy she is, she makes sure I see her undress. After raising her skirt above her thighs, she removes her stockings, running her hands along her calves as she pulls them down. Then she slowly unbuttons her blouse, giving me sexy looks between each button. Finally, she undoes her bra and cups her breasts as the straps fall off her shoulders. It makes me nuts.’
2. Sext Him: ‘Occasionally she’ll page me and send the message “I want to [bleep] tonight,”’ says Paul, 27. ‘I love getting playful, devilish little notes like this. It lets me know that she’s going to be ready and raring to go when I get home.’
3. Take Him Shopping: Tyson, 28, recalls, ‘Recently my sweetheart got me a gift certificate to Victoria’s Secret. She said, ‘Let’s go shopping — and you can buy anything you want me to wear.’ Being allowed to call the shots on the purchases we made was an amazing turn-on. That shopping spree was one long stretch of foreplay!’
4. Play Footsie: ‘My wife, Laura, plays a world-class game of footsie,’ asserts Bill, 37. ‘She has beautiful feet and wears a lot of high heels. She runs the side of her foot up and down my calf, first on the outside of my leg, then the inside. Then she kicks off her shoes and caresses my legs with her bare feet. Her toes tickle my ankles. If we’re at home or sitting in the dark back booth of our favourite neighbourhood pub, she puts her bare feet in my lap, and…I can’t stand up for a while afterward.’
5. Leave Him a Sexy Note: Mike, 42, remembers, ‘Once when I was putting in long hours at my job, I opened my date planner at work and found a note jotted down on that day’s page that said: “Sex @ 7pm” She must have taken my planner from my briefcase one night and written it in. Needless to say, I was home on time that night!’
6. Grab Your Trench Coat: ‘One night my wife and I were out to dinner and we were sitting at a table, but she wouldn’t take off her coat,’ details Tom, 31. ‘I asked her why and she said she couldn’t — and just stared at me. Turns out, all she was wearing was a trench coat and high heels. I couldn’t even eat; all I could think was, “This is the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen.”’
7. Strut Your Stuff: Mark, 32, comments, ‘Some women quit being sexy for their man after they get married, but Nancy has never stopped showing me how hot she is. She has this special walk that’s just for me, where she slowly struts around, with her hips swaying from side to side. When she comes home from work, she keeps the high heels on for 10 or 15 minutes — long enough so that she knows I’m getting an eyeful of that sexy walk. I want to take her straight to the bedroom.’