Sexual slumps are common if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, so there’s nothing to worry about. That said, it can be helpful to break out of your stale routine, and give your sexual wellbeing a little walk on the wild side. If you’re worried that your partner won’t be into anything kinky, think again; some women are interested in kinky stuff, but may be unsure how to approach the subject simply because “nice” girls aren’t supposed to like dirty sex. Here’s a list of sexual experiences your partner might be secretly up for:
1. Threesomes: According to sexual health and wellness writer Vanessa Burton, ‘For the more adventurous, thrill-seeking woman, adding someone new into the mix might be interesting. That’s right – having a threesome isn’t necessarily only your fantasy. Some women have also entertained the idea…Something important to note – before you start running a list of her friends through your head as possible candidates – is that threesomes might be dangerous for a relationship, since seeing your partner pleasuring or being pleasured by someone else could make either of you insane with jealousy. A good option would be to find someone who’s not super emotionally close to either of you, maybe through online dating, or at a social event where you’d feel comfortable bringing someone home in the first place. Whatever you do, make sure you discuss it thoroughly beforehand and you both understand what the boundaries and limits of this romp are.’
2. Pole Dancing: ‘It’s no secret that most guys would love to see their significant other do a private sexy dance for them,’ says Burton. ‘Some couples even go as far as to have poles installed in their bedrooms. But have you ever thought about how you would fare dancing with that pole? Why not surprise her with a sexy little dance of your own?…Throw on one of her favourite songs, and just go for it! Feel free to do a little practice dance in front of the mirror when you’re alone. And don’t worry about making a fool of yourself – she’s likely to be so touched that you went through the trouble that she won’t even notice your two left feet.’
3. Role-Playing:Burton suggests, ‘Map out interesting scenarios or pick real-life sexy couples to model yourselves after, then grab some fun costumes and let your imaginations guide you. You might feel a little silly at first, but after a “rehearsal” or two, you’ll probably start to like it. And some characters, like her coquettish French maid or your sultry Latin cabana boy, might start to make regular appearances in the bedroom.’
4. Sex Toys:Burton notes, ‘Sex toys are a fun and exciting way to put some heat back in the bedroom. You can take baby steps and begin with heated and flavoured massage oils, then try applying some orgasm-enhancing lubricant to her genitalia, and finally, you can try using a vibrator on her. Once you’re both feeling a little more adventurous, you can tackle the world of dildos, anal probes and beads. Use them on her, let her use them on you, take turns, or find a way to use them on each other at the same time. Regardless of how you do it, this bit of kink is sure to kick-start a heated sexual frenzy.’
5. Masturbation: ‘Masturbation is a healthy part of life, so why not share it with your partner?’ asks Burton. ‘If you’re not too shy, put your guard down and let her watch as you get acquainted with yourself – and she can do the same for you. The whole voyeurism element has a certain mystique that might appeal to some previously undiscovered aspects of your sexual psyche. Plus, another perk is that after you watch each other please yourselves, you might get a few new ideas or tips on how you can improve the way you please each other next time.’