Most adults can remember the first time they had their heart broken, and some would say it’s a teenage rite of passage. But although adults can look back on the experience with perspective and wisdom, it’s not so easy for a teenager who is experiencing the misery of a break-up for the first time. It’s hard to watch your teenager sufferthe despair and despondency, but if they don’t want to talk about it, what can you do?
Forget the Clichés
No one who’s just been dumped wants to hear “There’s plenty more fish in the sea”or “You’ll get over it.” Although as adults we know this is true, a teen going through heartbreak won’t believe they will ever love again, and indeed don’t want to love again. By telling them things aren’t that bad, they will just think you don’t understand their feelings.
Be Available
Even if all they do is lock themselves in their bedroom, it’s reassuring for your teenager to know that you are there if they do feel a need to talk. Cook their favourite dishes, let them watch a funny movie, or just let them cry on your shoulder, if that’s what they want.
Respect Their Privacy
You might feel tempted to encourage your child to take part in family activities to take their mind off things, but sometimes all they want is to lie on their bed or talk to their friends. If this is the case, let them get on with it. Just make sure they know you are there when they are ready to come out of their room.