There can be nothing more frustrating than dates that lead nowhere and do nothing for your heart and soul. And this cycle of pointless relationships can end up making you feel unworthy, unloved and anxious. Unfortunately, since urban dating is often all about meaningless short-term relationships and fleeting dates that do you more harm than good, it may be a good idea to give yourself a relationship detox. Stop dating for a bit, rediscover yourself and put the focus back on what matters most in your life—you.
Find yourself
Stop obsessing about all the men in your life or the lack of them and think about yourself instead. As clichéd as it sounds, a relationship detox is all about learning to love yourself and making yourself first priority. So rejoice that there is no more compromising and pussyfooting around what the MAN wants…you finally get to do what the heck you want and have a ball while you are at it.
Do what makes you happy
Beyond relationships, what are the things that really make you happy? This might take a little bit of thinking, unaccustomed as we are to cogitating about these esoteric things. Maybe it’s retail therapy or reading or travel or hanging out with a friend…taking a dating detox gives you the mind space to ask yourself the questions that matter and allows you to create the happiness you deserve.
Focus on your work
Your career matters more than you think and is likely to hold you in better stead than a fickle man. Use your dating time-out to take a long, hard look at your career graph and figure out how you can give it a boost. If you relationships have made you lose sight of your career goals, this is the time to get it back on track. Work a little harder at the office, take up stretch assignments and impress the management with your single-minded focus.
Hook up with your friends
Have you been ignoring your friends for a man? Well, pals are a forgiving lot and even if your icy behaviour has caused them some heartburn, they’ll warm up as soon as they realise that you are ready to be welcomed back into the fold. Friends are a blessing, so enjoy the warm companionship that will help dispel any initial loneliness you might be feeling. And be open about meeting new friends as well. It just might be more rewarding.
Your health matters
We all tend to put our health on the back burner till things get serious. And who has the time to think about elevated thyroid levels and a nagging back problem when you are dating Mr Hot and Handsome, right? Well, now that you don’t have a man to distract you, go ahead and get your complete health check-up done. Cook yourself those healthy meals that you have been promising yourself, enrol in a gym and do anything else that you need to get your health back on track.
Ask yourself what you want in a relationship
Stepping away from the dating game for a bit can give you the perspective you need on why you want to be in a relationship in the first place; what you are looking for in a man, whether you are ready to commit and if this is the right time for you to be in a relationship. Often, dating leads nowhere because we don’t have a clear idea of what we want in relationship.
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