5 ways overdating can kill your love life

Do you find yourself dating at least a couple of persons a week? Do you find yourself spending less and less time with each date? Do you find yourself unable to remember the names of the people you went on your last few dates with? Do you spend an inordinate amount of hours on dating apps? If yes, you are surely overdating. Yes, there is such a term – in this Tinder age, you date and overdate. But be careful. Experts say that overdating can sound the death knell for your romantic life. How? Read on.

First date, so what?

When you meet a person for the first date, you find yourself thinking, what's the big deal? In other words, the idea of a first date loses its charm completely. If this magic of meeting a guy for the first time on a first date vanishes, your romantic side takes a backseat.

That sinking feeling

You turn into a pessimist. After one bad date after another, you become so cynical that you go on revenge dates just to bully the person you're meeting. You tend to feel that all dates will eventually turn into a disaster. If that is your line of thinking, then even if you meet a person who could have been The One, you won't be able to spot him and hold on to him.

A ghoster

Yes, that's what you can become. You meet a person and just when you realise that you are wasting your time with him, you simply cut him off. You care two hoots about how he might be feeling. So, effectively, you start ghosting dates.

The One remains unidentifiable

You think that your prospective SO remains just a swipe away. That's why you want to meet as many persons as possible. But since you are more obsessed with searching than actually finding the One, you will go on dating and your search will not bear fruits. This is because you keep on thinking your search will throw up better results next time!

Distant and selfish

If you overdate, you tend to remember less. For instance, you might not be able to remember the personal details of the person you are dating at the moment. This is because at the back of your mind, you're thinking of moving on. In the process, you might appear aloof, dismissive and selfish to your dates. Is that a risk worth taking?