The end of a relationship can take a big toll on your mental and emotional wellness and wellbeing. Whether or not it was you who instigated the breakup and whether you were expecting it or not, it is a very difficult time indeed. There are all kinds of ways to cope with a breakup and people respond in their own way. There are some things that you can think about and try, however, to help you get through the breakup with your health intact.
Firstly, don’t be afraid to cry. If you feel like crying – go for it. It’s totally normal and healthy to cry and you should never feel embarrassed by your natural instincts. If you can avoid it, try not to cry in public, as making a scene is never going to be good for you in the long term. This is especially important if you work, as your professional reputation is something that you have got to protect. If you need some time off, then don’t be afraid to take some time off, and curl up with a TV show, good book and a box of Kleenex – and cry it all out.
Next, you must stay away from the person who is on the other end of the breakup. As much as you might want to track him down and throw things at him, or track him down and beg him to take you back, in truth, you really need to keep your distance. You need to have some time to yourself to get your emotional reactions under control and to think things through. Many women especially become almost ‘stalkerish’ in their behaviour after someone has hurt them. Keeping a distance will not only help you to heal but will also show your ex other half how independent and capable you are, and that you can survive fine without them.
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