A less than satisfying sex life can wreak havoc on your emotional health, as well as potentially damaging your relationship and confidence. 60 percent of people who cheat claim that they do so because their sex life with their partner wasn’t satisfying enough. And yet most people aren’t actually open and honest about problems in this area of their life, which means that people either aren’t speaking up and being dissatisfied, or they’re looking elsewhere and risking their relationship. Neither situation is ideal, so fixing the problems in the bedroom is the best choice for a healthy sex life and a happy relationship. So what are the most common complaints from couples in the bedroom, and what are the easiest ways to solve them?
Stress is often to blame for a bad sex life, as is depression and anxiety, a lack of sleep, body image issues, and a lack of communication between partners. If you’re experiencing problems with your lover, then these should be the first ports of call with regards to fixing them. More often than not, combating these issues is enough to reignite the spark between your both. However, there are sometimes more in-depth complaints which require a little closer attention. One such complaint is that the woman in the relationship struggles to reach an orgasm. For many people, this is the ultimate goal of sex, but that can put a lot of pressure on both people to reach this goal. But women often struggle with this for a reason – the female body isn’t as easy to navigate as a man’s and this can cause problems if your partner doesn’t know your body very well. Communication is key here, as is experimenting – take your time to get to know each others bodies, and what you like and don’t like, so that you have a better understanding of what it takes to make each other orgasm. However, if you don’t reach it, don’t worry – it doesn’t have to be the main point of the session.
If you have a low libido and your partner doesn‘t, or vice-versa, this can cause arguments and an unsatisfying sex life. Sometimes depression or anxiety can be to blame, or poor body image, all of which could benefit from counselling or therapy to get to the root of the problem. There could be a problem during the sex itself which could also be to blame, such as pain during sex. This could be as simple as a lack of lubrication, which you can buy over-the-counter products for. But sex shouldn’t hurt at all, so if this doesn’t solve the issue you should seek medical advice. This may require a visit to a gynaecologist in case there is a problem within you that’s causing the pain, such as a vaginal infection or a cyst.
In men, premature ejaculation can be a big problem in sex – it can leave women and men alike feeling unsatisfied and lacking in confidence. Majority of the time, a lack of self esteem or anxiety is to blame, and it may even be possible to train yourself to last longer. However, if you still can’t maintain an erection for as long as you want to, it may be worth speaking to your GP who may be able to advise if you have a problem that requires treatment. The main way to deal with a sexual complaint, though, is to speak up – your partner won’t know unless you tell them, and there is no other way of solving problems between you both.
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