Learning to share is a vital skill for children but it isn’t always easy. As human beings it’s natural to put our own needs first and so when a child is reluctant to share, they are only acting instinctively. Here are our tips for helping children learn to share:
Choose the right time
Children only really understand the concept of sharing at around the age of three so don’t worry if they show no willingness to share before this age.
Make it fun
Teach children that sharing can be fun. Practice taking turns with teddies or dolls or find fun activities that your child can enjoy with another, such as completing a puzzle or helping with household chores.
Don’t rush in
When older children play together, they will often regulate their own behaviour naturally sharing and taking turns. It’s only when a grown-up is present that they will begin to squabble as they compete for attention from the adult. So know when to stand back and let children work out sharing for themselves.
Some things aren’t for sharing
If your child has a particular teddy or comforter that they are emotionally attached to, let them keep this just for themselves. They are likely to have a strong emotional connection to this item and it could be distressing to be forced to share. Let your child know that there is an exception and they don’t have to share their treasured item.
Be fair
When eager to teach your child to share, it’s also important to make sure that they are treated fairly. Don’t be too quick to force them to give up an item; it would leave negative feelings about sharing.
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