Sex is an important part of a relationship but many people find it difficult to talk about the subject when things aren’t going right. The key to a healthy and honest relationship is communication, so if you and your partner want to enjoy a fulfilling sex life, you have to be ready to talk frankly about your feelings.
When you feel unable to discuss the things that make you unhappy with your sex life, what might be simply resolved problems can spill over into the other parts of your life and cause friction in your relationship.
There are several common problems that can arise in a relationship. One is when one partner want sex more often than the other – the one trying to initiate sex and being rebuffed may start to feel rejected, concerned that you might no longer be attracted to them or perhaps that you’re seeing someone else. If you’re the one who is doing the rebuffing, you might feel you can’t be honest about why you don’t want to have sex.
Good communication in a sexual relationship means being willing to put aside any hurt feelings or embarrassment to be honest about what’s going on. Your partner is likely to be going through exactly the same feeling of hurt and embarrassment so you will both benefit from talking frankly.
Learning to talk openly and honestly isn’t easy for everyone but be patient with your partner and give him or her time to get used to having frank conversations. Pick your moments when to bring the subject up – talking about sex probably isn’t the best topic for the dinner table nor might the subject go down well if you’ve just been rejected in your bedroom advances and demand to know why.
You might be inclined to hold back on how you really feel because you don’t want to hurt your other half’s feelings. Think about what you want to say and how you want to say it and be sensitive to them and their reaction. Remember, honesty is key – an improved sex life will be good for both of you so don’t be shy about expressing your needs and wants but do take into account that you may have to compromise to make both of you happy.
Be prepared to work at finding the right solution for your sexual relationship. Changes and improvements won’t happen overnight and you have to give your partner time to adjust to what’s going on.
Perhaps the biggest threat to any sexual relationship is when one of you has an affair. It may not spell the end of your life together but when trust is broken in this way, it can take a long time to rebuild that trust and save your relationship. Honest communication will again play a key role here.
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