Couples who have been married for a long time often find that sexual desire comes and goes. This is especially the case for women, and many men find it frustrating when their partner is not as interested in sex as she used to be. For the sake of your sexual health, which feeds in to relationship health, it is important to work hard at finding ways to keep the sexual desire and intimacy alive in your marriage. There are several ways that you can do this, and if you follow these easy steps then you may well find that you have an improved sense of wellness and wellbeing as a result, too.
Firstly, a lack of desire for sex usually has very little to do with sex. Not wanting to have sex as often does not mean that you no longer enjoy sex or even that you no longer feel attracted to your partner. It usually has more to do with what is going on in the rest of your life, and when you have found and dealt with this contributing factor, then you may well find that your sex life sorts itself on its own.
One of the best things you can do to restore sexual intimacy is to hire a cleaner. With the extra time that you will have when you are no longer having to clean, you may find you have more time for sex, plus it removes the irritations of who should have done what chore, and brings you closer as a couple.
Work stress can also be a contributing factor. Perhaps consider switching jobs or creating a new working pattern. Bear in mind that a job is just a job, but your partner and marriage should be prioritised.
Finding a hobby can also help, as it lets you have some ‘me time’ and you can then feel refreshed and ready to reconnect with your partner.
Financial worries are also a big passion killer. If you have debt, sit down with your partner and work out a plan of action for working through it together. You’ll be amazed at how relaxed you feel once this is sorted, and you may then feel closer to your partner, too.
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