Your sexual capabilities certainly change from one decade to another as you age, but if you’re doing things right you’ll learn more as you go along. Most people begin having sex more in their 20s, so this is the prime learning opportunity for the majority of men. For a lot of men, their 20s mean more confidence, both in and out of the bedroom, as well as more opportunities for sleeping with people. Here are some of the best tips you can learn from in your 20s that will serve you well later in life and (hopefully!) make you a better lover .
Girls can be bad at sex
For a lot of men, this realisation is a surprising one. At first, it seems simple – you both get naked and that’s all it takes. But as you get older, you realise that there is more to it than that. There’s a subtle shift when you realise that some women aren’t that great at sex, and you might actually be better. But more than that, it’s also the realisation that people have different likes and dislikes in bed, and that its not just a case of gratitude. While, naturally, manners and gratitude play a part, the simple fact is that there are two people involved, and a bad sexual experience can be just as likely to be down to her as it can you.
You can talk about what you like
Communication, particularly in the bedroom, has notoriously been the male species’ downfall. But while this may be news to many men, it’s one worth remembering – talking in bed isn’t off limits. In fact, it’s encouraged if you actually want to know about each other’s likes and dislikes! How else are you supposed to know what to do? Having sex hundreds of times or just the once makes no difference when you’re having sex with someone new – you still need to learn about their body, what they enjoy and how they like having sex. After all, everyone is different. The moment you realise this, sex becomes a lot better.
Women do have orgasms, too
So it’s not all about the guy – this might be a bit of a shock to men in their 20s. When you’re younger you don’t care. But as you get older, you realise that women expect something at the end too – they aren’t there to help you finish, they’d actually like to enjoy some of the action as well. Think of sex as a team sport, rather than just a solo activity – your sex life and reputation will improve unbelievably.
Fantasies aren’t always that great
We’ve all been fed the line about fantasies being the be all and end all of sex, but as you get older you realise that that might not actually be the case. Some things are better when they’re left to the imagination. Our 20s can be a sobering reminder that fantasises can sometimes be very awkward and not really live up to the hype. But if you take it with good humour and enjoy the moment regardless, you can have fun practicing at the very least!
Drunk sex can be rubbish
In all the films and books, a couple get drunk, fall into bed and have mind-blowing sex. In reality, it doesn’t really pan out this way. Then there is the fact that in your 20s, you struggle to comprehend sober sex – how will you relax? But age does something wonderful to your sex life – you realise that confidence and experience go hand in hand, and you don’t need alcohol to have a great time in bed. If you’re lucky, you’ll realise this before the awkward drunken sex which results in you passing out in the middle of the act.
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