How to Take Your Orgasms to a Whole New Level

Whether you’re yet to have one, or you can do it just by thinking about it, everyone could use some tips for having amazing orgasms. The female orgasm is becoming more and more a part of sexual health and wellness research and, luckily, we’re passing the findings on to you! So, if you want to give your wellbeing a little boost, try our tips for achieving the best orgasm you’ve ever had.

 

1. Toys and tools: Lengthening foreplay sessions with sex toys like vibrators can help to make your orgasm more intense – especially if you create anticipation. Patty Brisben, founder of PureRomance, notes, ‘When your mind is aroused, it’s much easier for your body to be stimulated.’

 

2. Lube: According to sexologist Shanna Katz, ‘For some reason women are reluctant to use lubrication. Natural lubrication is not an indication of how aroused you are and many factors can lower this lubrications, like birth control pills, antihistamines, and stress.’ Most sexual wellness experts will tell you to embrace the bottle of glycerin-free, water-based lubricant and just go for it. Brisben echoes, ‘There’s a misconception among people in their 20s and 30s that lubrication is only necessary when there is a problem that needs to be resolved, like vaginal dryness, that is connected to ageing. But that’s not true, lubrication is for any age. In fact, 65% of women have said that the use of lubrication has lead to incredible sex.’

 

3. Strengthening: Doing Kegel exercises strengthens your pelvic muscles. Lynn Wolfbrandt, product specialist for www.vibrators.com, explains, ‘Doing Kegels regularly will result in stronger contractions during orgasm.’ To locate the right muscles, stop your flow while peeing. The muscles that do these are the ones you need to contract, exhaling as you do so and inhaling when you release. The good thing about these exercises is that you can do them anytime, anywhere without anyone knowing, making Kegels just that little bit naughty. For the best results, do ten repetitions three times a day.

 

4. Heat: Although it’s an important variable in reaching the big O, temperature is often overlooked. However, relationship coach Dylan Thrasher points out, ‘A Danish study showed that women have 30% more probability of reaching orgasm is their feet are warm rather than cold. Although it’s very strange, putting socks on during sex will help you obtain more powerful orgasms or, better yet, try a foot massage using warming body oils to heat things up.’

 

5. Mental connection: ‘People say that the brain is the most important sexual orgasm and they’re right,’ Thrasher asserts. ‘It’s important to silence all those bothersome thoughts that interrupt intimacy.’ Moreover, a strong emotional connection can, in turn, strengthen your orgasms. Thrasher continues, ‘Having a strong connection with your partner strengthens the quality of the sex, specifically orgasms. A woman should feel appreciated, desired, understood and accepted by her partner.’

 

6. Spices: Getting down to business straightaway can seem like a passionate way to have sex, but there’s something to be said for delayed gratification, especially if you prepare your nerve endings by playing a game with your senses. Katz says, ‘Be it with a fragrance oil massage or some spanking, playing with the senses can arouse some people more than an hour of oral sex. Consider using blindfolds, feathers, satin, skin and candles to create a sensorial game as foreplay.’

 

7. Fake it: Just to clarify, you don’t need to fake an orgasm; you simply need to pretend you know what you’re doing. Katz comments, ‘The more confidence you have, the sexier you will be, and the more sexy, the more you and your partner will enjoy it. So if you’re not sure about trying a new move or position, or trying something completely new, remember to breathe and go for it as if it was the best thing in the world.’

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