Oral sex can be seen as somewhat of a chore by both men and women. Men aren’t really into foreplay – unless they’re on the receiving end – and women often fear the daunting task of a “blow job.” However, oral sex can be a wonderful part of your sexual health and wellbeing. If done right, it can be satisfying for both of you, so stop thinking of it as a “job” and take up these hot tips for blowing your partner away.
1. Take Control: According to Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson, authors of Bedded Bliss, oral sex ‘can be one of the most empowering things to do because you’re taking charge of his pleasure. That can amp up your own arousal.’ You also have the opportunity to be adventurous, playful and fun. Wellness writer Anna Davies instructs, ‘Do what feels best for you—and by all means request that he return the favour. Once you’re ready, start slowly and maintain eye contact as you begin to move your hand up and down his shaft. If you’d like, prep the area by adding a bit of flavoured lube that’s safe for consumption, like Babeland’s Babelicious line, which can make the act a little more palatable and help any initial hand actions go more smoothly.’
2. Linger: Davies notes, ‘Nothing about a blowjob should be fast—he wants to savour it, and you’ll love making him squirm. So start slow by grazing your mouth against his penis as you continue moving your hand up and down his lubricated shaft. One more thing: At this point, it’s all right if he’s not entirely erect. In fact, it’s normal for his erection to ebb and flow during oral sex, and it’s not indicative of his pleasure.’
3. Ask About It: California-based sexologist Amy Marsh points out that asking him to tell you when a move really turns him on adds to the mood, and will make it even better next time. ‘Being honest about how it feels will boost enjoyment on both sides,’ says Marsh.
4. Take It an Inch at a Time: Marsh warns, ‘Gagging takes you both out of the moment, and you and he will enjoy oral sex much more when you’re both having fun.’ Davies outlines, ‘To simulate deep throating, you want to use some combination of your mouth, tongue and hands…Move your mouth and hand in a rhythmic motion. Always let him know what you don’t like when you’re going down on him, whether it be holding your head or thrusting strongly.’
5. Take a Lipstick Break: ‘Awkward angles and jaw pain can make it hard to enjoy oral sex, so take some breaks,’ Davies advises. ‘You could try the “lipstick technique” for a bit: Use your hand to brush the head of his penis against the outline of your lips, taking the head in your mouth between outlines for added lubrication.’
6. Focus on the Frenulum: There’s a bundle of nerves in the frenulum, so flick it with the tip of your tongue. Davies recommends, ‘Circle the head of the penis slowly, stopping each time you hit this pleasure spot.’
7. Lick It: Davies explains, ‘Licking his penis like you’re licking an ice cream cone is a guy-pleaser for a reason: Not only does a regular rhythm help get him even more worked up, but it gives you a chance to get into a groove.’ Marsh adds, ‘Creating a steady rhythm is what builds and sustains excitement.’
8. Commit: Michaels and Johnson note, ‘Conveying your genuine enthusiasm is the biggest turn-on. The more pleasure you feel, and the more you can get across that you’re enjoying the act, the more pleasure your partner will receive in turn.’
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