You may sometimes fantasise about having sex with a much younger man, but young guys may not be as good for your sexual wellbeing as you think. According to sexual health and wellness expert Aaron Traister, author at The Good Men Project, ‘Twenty-something dudes today have no idea how easy they have it when it comes to sex, what with their “hook-up culture” and their fancy “smartphones” that “sext.” I once walked five miles in a blizzard because a girl called me up (on my house phone) and asked if I wanted to listen to the new White Zombie CD.’ But does that mean older men crave the casual hook-up, or are the young ones missing out on some sexy monogamy? When all is said and done, there are three reasons why you should favour experience over youth:
1. Older Men Have Seen it All: Traister notes, ‘When guys are young, we’re surprisingly uptight about sex: It’s all about looking cool, trying to re-create the sex you’ve seen in movies. Nakedness is still an uncomfortably real experience. By now, I’ve seen everything my wife has to offer, physically: the good, the bad, the sexy, and the scary. During Karel’s C-section, they let me look over the partition before everything was back to normal, so my first image of my daughter includes a nurse holding my wife’s innards. For her part, Karel’s had to take care of me during a severe case of stomach flu (enough said). While those trials might seem like permanent mood-killers, the reality is they’ve only loosened us up in the bedroom. Plus, we’ve reached a point where Karel is no longer a vending machine for tiny humans, and this has made me appreciate her body more than ever. I think she appreciates my appreciation.’
2. Older Men Want to Be Your Trophy Husband: ‘It’s a rare man who can avoid the weight gain that comes with starting a family,’ says Traister. ‘First there is the “newlywed 15,” and then there’s the “new baby 50” (at least in my case). I’ve looked into the void: I’ve seen myself as a bloated, out-of-shape, middle-aged father of two. I don’t like that guy. In an effort to banish him forever, I started busting my ass in the gym. Now, instead of being all about doughnuts, cheese fries, and whiskey, I’m all about crunches, plank positions, and the dreaded side-plank positions. I love fatty food, but I love athletic sex even more—and I’m not alone in finding myself at a point where I can do things that I couldn’t do in my 20s. Also, I’m pretty sure the plank and side plank will eventually come in handy during intercourse.’
3. Older Men Are About Quality, Not Quantity: Traister comments, ‘Say what you will about how hard it is to have a decent sex life during the baby years—at least you can plop your kid in the Superyard XT, flip on an episode of Thomas & Friends, and escape upstairs for a quickie. But there is no containing a six-year-old to one room. You think you have the all-clear, and the next thing you know your kid is standing in the middle of the bedroom trying to show you his Lego White House. (How the hell did he get through a locked door?) On the other hand, after-school activities and dinners at friends’ houses mean the kids are gone for longer periods of time. And when they’re gone, you can be louder, you can use multiple locations, and you don’t have to stop every two minutes because you think you hear little feet on the stairs. Most of all, you have enough time to fully appreciate intimacy. For instance, do you remember foreplay? Foreplay is back! So buckle up, because soccer practice lasts two hours.’
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